1.Know you are incomparable
You bring your self-esteem down by comparing yourself with others. That shrivels your personality and does not let your strengths blossom . Know that you and the other person are unique and are just incomparable.
2.Be kind to yourself
We are taught to be kind to others. Yet, many of us fail to be kind to ourselves. Studies show that self-compassion brings positive traits like optimism, extroversion, wisdom, happiness, positivity and resilience. According to Emma Seppala, research psychologist at Stanford University, self-compassion involves three steps:
- Recognize that you deserve care and concern like anyone else and that is why you must be kind and understanding with oneself.
- Recognize that making mistakes and failing is part of life. So, do not be hard on yourself when you commit a mistake or fail and indulge in self-critical thoughts.
- Be aware of one’s emotions and feelings.
Contrary to popular belief, self-compassion does not mean letting yourself off the hook. Rather, it means taking corrective action, albeit without being too self-critical.
3.Give space to imperfection
People and situations always do not fit in your frame of perfection. Often, that makes one agitated and angry, eventually diminishing the strength of their personality. So, find your peace amidst the world’s flaws even as you strive to make a change.